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When we come to know and accept ourselves, we become free to accept others and appreciate how they complement us.
Whether you are looking for a job promotion, seeking peace within your team, or looking to improve relationships, we can all benefit from learning more about what drives and energizes us. Finding common ground among an office or different personalities can sometimes be difficult or even detrimental to a career or an organization.
What if discovering what motivates you and others, you can begin to identify and eliminate what doesn't? In "The Birkman Method: Your Personality at Work" by Sharon Birkman Fink and Stephanie Capparell defines a critical workplace assessment that has given millions of business professionals the awareness tools they need to reach a higher level of performance.
The Birkman self-assessment goes beyond behavior to give insight as to why certain things will satisfy or stress you. It is built on the foundation that once you discover your own personality and interests, you can better understand others, resulting in a more fulfilling work environment.
Each person who buys the book, will be able to complete a full Birkman questionnaire and receive his or her own personal "life style gird" with an easy-to-understand summary of key Birkman scores, which are more thoroughly described in the book. The book then helps you understand your results and personal report.
In The Leadership Challenge, James Kouzes and Barry Posner point out how important honesty is in a leader and how it ranks first among employee expectations, surpassing even competence: "In every survey we conducted, honesty was selected more often than any other leadership characteristic."
Of 462 executives who were asked, "What characteristics are needed to be an effective leader today?" 56 percent ranked ethical behavior as an important characteristic, followed by sound judgment (51%) and being adaptable/flexible (47%). --American Management Association, New York, NY
It's one thing to understand that honesty and trust start at the top and quite another to develop the strategies and the philosophies that make the understanding a reality.
As deadly as lies are, they're especially poisonous in the workplace. They can destroy employee engagement and productivity, undermine teamwork, ruin people's livelihoods, and even bring down entire companies.
Lies need to be caught quickly in the workplace before they snowball into something catastrophic. Unfortunately, most of us have no clue about how to spot a liar, and the workplace setting adds another layer of complexity.
In The Truth About Lies in the Workplace, leading workplace body language expert Carol Kinsey Goman combines her own experiences with the latest research to provide a comprehensive guide to spotting, exposing, and minimizing workplace lies. Once you spot a lie, she provides tactical advice on how to respond, whether the liar is above, below or on the same level as you. Goman also explains what leaders can do to reduce lies and encourage candor.
Detecting Deception through Nonverbal Cues
Reading body language to detect deceit in a business interaction is similar to what a professional poker player does during a card game. The card player is looking for tells--nonverbal cues that indicate increased stress or are out of sync with what the opposing poker player is saying. The difference is that you are applying these skills in a workplace setting. There are 30 body language tells that will help hone your liar-spotting skills.
Detecting Deception through Verbal Cues
People's choice of words often reveals more about them than they realize. For example, because most people experience stress when lying, they often try to circumvent that by speaking the literal truth. So, if your boss says, "I'm thinking of recommending you for the position," that is exactly what she means. She has not told you she did recommend you. She has not told you she will recommend you. All she said is that she is thinking about doing so. In the same way, if your colleague states, "That's all I can tell you," believe him. He can't or won't tell you more. But remember: that doesn't mean this is all he knows.
A liar's choice of words, in contrast to a truthful person's, will frequently include several verbal cues. Dr. Goman's book provides 20 verbal cues to hone your liar-spotting skills.
Great basketball players like Bill Russell have an intrinsic understanding of the principles, rules, strategies, and mechanics of their game, but their play is dictated by what is required in the moment, often without conscious thought on the part of the players. The Art of Insight is the same way.
A sports analogy for finding the "sweet spot:' "It is the championship game. Your team has the basketball with fifteen seconds left on the clock, and you are down by a point. Do you want to be wound up and tight or loose and confident?"
Great players always want the ball in these situations, and they are always loose and confident--present in the situation, open to whatever happens, and able to integrate many hours of practice into the immediate unfolding of the game. Lesser players get tight and try too hard to find the "right" action to take. Their breathing gets labored, and neither their brains nor their muscles move with the fluidity necessary to make the shot. They get so locked up in "over-thinking" that we use the term choke to characterize their efforts.
Bill Russell, star center for basketball's legendary Boston Celtics, describes a quiet mind in a very fast setting:
"Every so often, a Celtics game would heat up so that it became more than a physical, or even a mental, game and would be magical. That feeling is very difficult to describe, and I certainly never talked about it when I was playing. When it happened, I could feel my play rise to a new level. It came rarely, and would last anywhere from five minutes to a whole quarter or more. Three or four plays were not enough to get it going. It would surround not only me and the other Celtics, but also the players on the other team, even the referees.
At that special level, all sorts of odd things happened. The game would be in a white heat of competition, and yet somehow I wouldn't feel competitive--which is a miracle in itself. I'd be putting out the maximum effort, straining, coughing up parts of my lungs as we ran, and yet I never felt the pain. The game would move so quickly that every fake, cut, and pass would be surprising--and yet nothing could surprise me. It was almost as if we were playing in slow motion.
During those spells, I could almost sense how the next play would develop and where the next shot would be taken. Even before the other team brought the ball into bounds, I could feel it so keenly that I'd want to shout to my teammates, "It's coming there!"--except that I knew everything would change if I did.
My premonitions would be consistently correct, and I always felt than that I not only knew all of the Celtics by heart, but also all the opposing players, and that they all knew me. There have been many times in my career when I felt moved or joyful, but these were the moments when I had chills pulsing up and down my spine.
Sometimes the feeling would last all the way to the end of the game, and when that happened, I never cared who won. I can honestly say that those few times were the only ones when I did not care. I don't mean that I was a good sport about it--that I'd played my best and had nothing to be ashamed of. On the five or ten occasions when the game ended at the special level, I literally did not care who won. If we lost, I'd still be free and high as a sky hawk."
Obviously, a quiet mind does not necessarily mean that you are quiet. You might be mentally quiet but also very physically active, like Bill Russell operating "in the zone."
The Insight State of Mind doesn't include a lot of internal monologues. It is not a state where you stop thinking, but it is a state where you are not working hard on your thinking. Techniques aren't necessary to reach the Insight State of Mind. You simply pay attention to the presence or absence of the feeling you associate with your best state of mind. Although your proficiency may have fallen due to neglect, none of this is new. You must simply reacquaint yourself with this natural, inborn capacity.
An insight is a thought we've never had before. It's a fresh thought.
Insights are those "Aha! moments" when the clouds part and the solution to your problem arises right in front of you. They happen when fresh new light is spread on a subject you've considered for some time. We all have experienced these moments of deep understanding, even if we might not know what to call them or how to describe them.
An insight is a discovery or realization that goes beyond face value, beyond the obvious. It is a deeper, more universal understanding that is often very relevant to you. With insight, a new cognitive structure is formed that is different from the sum of its parts, and it usually calls for a different action.
While the circumstances in which people have their insights are as varied as the individuals, everyone has reported a common state of mind. It's an easy going, unpressured, open, and ungripped state. The more often you reside in this state of mind, the more often you will have insights.
Conversely, when you are agitated and bearing down with your thinking, insights become more elusive. While the Insight State of Mind is our natural, default state, we inadvertently think ourselves out of it.
A strategic insight is a simplifying "Aha! moment" that often radically redefines business and the competitive advantage. Once articulated, these strategic insights seemed like simple common sense to everyone. They are easily understood and acted upon. In fact, implementation usually occurs with far less effort than forced march that often characterizes strategy implementation.
The Art of Insight is a new book that teaches readers how to have more "Aha! moments" in life. Based on the authors' years of research, reflection, and experiences, The Art of Insight presents practical methods of recognizing and cultivating an Insight State of Mind. Charles Kiefer and Malcolm Constable describe these thinking methods that are designed to foster fresh thoughts and perspectives. But this is not a rigid set of rules--it's a creative pursuit.
"Have you ever seen a winning team that had no coach? You cannot perform with excellence unless you have a coach. Even people who are the best, the top one percent or two percent in their field, still have a coach. Ironically, in business, we are expected sometimes to play without a coach. That's not the best way to play, either in sports or business. Business is a team event. Winning is about execution, so performance coaching always has a role. I can see people performing better because of the coaching." --Senior Executive, Global Manufacturer
Leadership is not just for people at the top.Everyone can learn to lead by discovering the power that lies within each one of us to make a difference and being prepared when the call to lead comes.
Leadership is applicable to all facets of life: a competency that you can learn to expand yourperspective, set the context of a goal, understand the dynamics of human behavior and take the initiative to get to where you want to be.
Effective leadership coaching can happen on the dance floor of conversation. Here are five guiding principles that guide respectful conversations:
1. When peers connect change happens. Effective coaching can happen on the dance floor of conversation.
2. It's OK to begin a conversation by confronting the other person with questions that seem awkward but set the stage for a respectful exchange. Why waste time on small talk? Just ask to-the-point information-seeking questions, like: "What are you here for? How do you wantto spend our time together?"
3. Conversations are not meant to be structured. Be open to conversations that you are unprepared for and focused on theinterests of the other person (not your purpose).
4. Don't get pulled into solving problems that may not matter to the other person. Allow time for the person to get to what's really important. Provide spaces where they can express their doubts and fears by being a thoughtful listener--without taking on the responsibility to fix or debate the issue. After all, you have invited the person to talk about what matters to her or him, not you, so allow time for the articulation of those thoughts and feelings.
5. Personal transformation happens when the right questions get asked--not by providing answers. When you focus on the solution, you are trying to sell the person something. When you allow people to answer their own questions, they discover what they were not aware of---and what is needed to move forward. Personal transformation leads corporate transformation--one person at a time.
That is why leadership development is not an event. It is a process of participating in respectful conversations where the leader recognizeshis or her own feelings and those of others in building safe and trustingrelationships.
Performance coachingis dialogue that recognizes excellence and achieves business goals by specifying areas for improvement and learning. Managers who coach others do so to help them develop new skills, initiate a desired competency or goal, stretch performance to the next level or redirect behavior to solve existing problems. Performance coaching must occur regularly and consistently, not just once or twice per year.
People who receive performance coaching usually look forward to it, knowing that it has the power to make them even better at what they do, thus opening up opportunities. Unlike other processes, performance coaching focuses explicitly on business results. Performance coaches spend most of their time discussing high-impact behaviors and linking them to results. They aim not just at addressing performance problems per se but more often at achieving high performance and reaching a person's full potential.
However, many executives, who have not been personally coached, have trouble understanding how to coach for high performance. With companies rarely observing the quality of performance coaching and managers sometimes exaggerating their time reporting on coaching activities, leaders often don't understand the nature of coaching actually taking place.
However, a single leader who coaches for elite performance can make a big difference within an organization. Yet, the real power comes when companies share high-performance coaching capability across all managers and leaders. Since most companies don't do this, scaling high performance coaching is a significant source of advantage, available for the taking.
The key success factor to integrate high-performance coaching across all managers and leaders is to strategically select a few emerging leaders for a six month engagement of weekly hour telephone coaching sessions with an outside executive coach; in order to understand, appreciate and be ready to implement with their team members the power of performance coaching.
These executive coached managers will then be ready, willing and able to structure performance coaching conversations with their direct reports to gain useful feedback and skillfully pinpoint the right workplace behaviors. Coaching can be hard to do and feel uncomfortable at first. But by being professionally coached and recognizing the benefits of their own personal development, these new leader coaches will begin to achieve exceptional team results within the organization.
Organizational psychology has long concerned itself with how to design work so that people will enjoy it and want to keep doing it.
Traditionally the thinking has been that employers should appeal to workers’ more obvious forms of self-interest: financial incentives, yes, but also work that is inherently interesting or offers the possibility for career advancement. Grant’s research, which has generated broad interest in the study of relationships at work and will be published for the first time for a popular audience in his new book, “Give and Take,” starts with a premise that turns the thinking behind those theories on its head. The greatest untapped source of motivation, he argues, is a sense of service to others; focusing on the contribution of our work to other peoples’ lives has the potential to make us more productive than thinking about helping ourselves.
“Give and Take” incorporates scores of studies and personal case histories that suggest the benefits of an attitude of extreme giving at work. Many of the examples — the selfless C.E.O.’s, the consultants who mentor ceaselessly — are inspiring and humbling, even if they are a bit intimidating in their natural expansiveness. These generous professionals look at the world the way Grant does: an in-box filled with requests is not a task to be dispensed with perfunctorily (or worse, avoided); it’s an opportunity to help people, and therefore it’s an opportunity to feel good about yourself and your work. “I never get much done when I frame the 300 e-mails as ‘answering e-mails,’ ” Grant told me. “I have to look at it as, How is this task going to benefit the recipient?” Where other people see hassle, he sees bargains, a little work for a lot of gain, including his own.
The message sounds terrific: Feel good about your work, and get more of it done, and bask in the appreciation of all the people you help along the way.
Relationships between people or institutions are based on exchange in which all parties have an understanding of their rights and obligations. Relations can be forged through personal favors and bring with them obligations and expectations. For every action, something is expected in return. Those who do favors are highly esteemed; they are recognized as people who have respect for those around them. Every previous or current situation produces expectations for future behavior on the giver and gift recipient.
Reciprocation flows from Divine Law that can neither be ignored or put aside. Perhaps, the most important of these laws is the 'law of love.' Put simply, "Love is Law, Law is Love. God is Love, Love is God." This amounts to the same thing as "the gift of giving" without the "hope of reward or pay," or serving others. This 'law of love' is identified in many different ways--for example, in Wayne Baker's bestseller, "Achieving Success Through Social Capital"(Jossey-Bass), this law of love in the workplace is described as the "law of reciprocity."
The law of reciprocity is not what can best be described as "transactional reciprocity." Baker says that, "Many people conceive of their business dealings as spot market exchanges--value given for value received, period. Nothing more, nothing less. This tit-for-tat mode of operation can produce success, but it doesn't invoke the power of reciprocity and so fails to yield extraordinary success."
Baker explains, "The lesson is that we cannot pursue the power of reciprocity. When we try to invoke reciprocity directly, we lose sight of the reason for it: helping others. Paradoxically, it is in helping others without expecting reciprocity in return that we invoke the power of reciprocity. The path to reciprocity is indirect: reciprocity ensues from the social capital built by making contributions to others.
The deliberate pursuit of reciprocity fails, just like the pursuit of happiness. Acts of contribution, big and small, build your fund of social capital, creating a vast network of reciprocity. And so those who help you may not be those you help. The help you receive may come from distant corners of your network."
Rule for Reciprocation:"One of the most potent of the weapons of influence around us is the rule for reciprocation. The rule says that we should try to repay, in kind, what another person has provided us."Robert B. Cialdini, author of "The Psychology of Persuasion" (William Morrow, 1993)
Grant’s book, incorporating several decades of social-science research on reciprocity, divides the world into three categories: givers, matchers and takers. Givers give without expectation of immediate gain; they never seem too busy to help, share credit actively and mentor generously. Matchers go through life with a master chit list in mind, giving when they can see how they will get something of equal value back and to people who they think can help them. And takers seek to come out ahead in every exchange; they manage up and are defensive about their turf. Most people surveyed fall into the matcher category — but givers, Grant says, are overrepresented at both ends of the spectrum of success: they are the doormats who go nowhere or burn out, and they are the stars whose giving motivates them or distinguishes them as leaders.
Driving in the "blind spot" is dangerous both personally and corporately.
After working with entrepreneurs for several years now, one major failing keeps surfacing -- too many have a fatal marketing "blind spot".
These entrepreneurs thoroughly understand their technology. They may well be on their way to mastering the engineering and operational issues involved in delivering their product or service. Yet they persist -- often until it is too late -- in believing that the marketing issues are relatively simple -- because everyone will surely love their new product or service as much as they do.
Only after that product or service is "ready" -- or worse, after early sales attempts have bombed -- will someone like me get a call. Of course, at that point most of the money's gone. Sometimes huge amounts! There's neither time nor money to do a competent marketing plan, let alone execute it -- and the venture fails -- needlessly.
In my experience, this marketing "blind spot" is the single most common cause of startup failures -- in fact, I'm starting to believe, more common than all others combined.
The most important piece of advice that I can give entrepreneurs is to get a marketing "reality check" early on -- like at the beginning, before you even know that your product or service will do what you're hoping it will do.
Is it really there? Can it be penetrated (or developed) and what's likely to be required to do so? This is just a "look." It doesn't have to be an expensive, complicated project. In fact, at this point, it shouldn't be. But it's absolutely certain that it will be much less "expensive" than if it's done downstream.
Leaders at all levels are reluctant to openly acknowledge their struggles for fear of appearing weak, indecisive or even incompetent. In "Leadership and the Art of Struggle: How Great Leaders Grow through Challenge and Adversity," author Steven Snyder argues that struggle is an innate part of leadership that should be embraced as an opportunity for breakthrough success rather than feared as a career-killer.
"Fulfilling your potential as a leader requires that you think differently about leadership," Snyder writes. "You must recast your struggles as positive learning experiences and view them as necessary steps in your leadership development." Developing a solid understanding of the root of struggle--change, tensions, and/or being out of balance--is the first step to mastering the art of struggle.
For example, blind spots are the product of an overactive automatic mind and an underactive reflective mind. A blind spot is anything that can hinder or undermine your performance that you are either unaware of or have chosen to overlook.
A blind spot is most likely to come into play when leaders move to a new role or a new company. They arrive so eager to show off what they know that they don't pay close enough attention to their new circumstances. The risk is that they continue on autopilot without noticing the need for radical change. Their automatic mind continues to tell them that all is well, and their reflective mind is too lazy to blow the whistle. Is it any wonder why 40% of new leaders fail?
A blind spot doesn't necessarily mean that you are unaware of a problem; blind spots can occur even if you have some level of awareness but fail to take appropriate action. By definition, you are blind to your blind spots. That's why it's so important to proactively seek to discover them. It can be helpful to work with an executive coach to help hear what you are not hearing and see what you have chosen not to see.
Yahoo—that has struggled to come up with new ideas—is making a smart call.
Most studies of telecommuting focus on how working from home affects employees. Less often discussed is how telecommuting affects employers. And the research on this suggests that for Yahoo the costs of telecommuting dwarf its benefits.
On the simplest level, telecommuting makes it harder for people to have the kinds of informal interaction that are crucial to the way knowledge moves through an organization. The role that hallway chat plays in driving new ideas has become a cliché of business writing, but that doesn’t make it less true.
When employees just hang out in the coffee room (or meet when leaving the rest room) they aren’t wasting time; rather, they are having highly productive conversations about problems encountered on the job.
To illustrate the importance of knowledge to a company, think back in time to remember the disruption that occurred when a key person left the company without sharing his understanding of how to get things done. Effective corporate leaders know that unshared knowledge loses value. Yet, how knowledge is shared is crucial in determining whether it serves to enhance the reputation of the person sharing it or not.
Success is not an individual matter--it depends upon our relationships with others. Connection and coordination with others matter. The manner in which the professional connects with others matters. Increasing one's social capital is all knowing how to share knowledge so it not only adds value to the organization but also to your recognized worth within it.
Effective corporate leaders know that unshared knowledge loses value. Yet, how knowledge is shared is crucial in determining whether it serves to enhance the reputation of the person sharing it or not. The formula for both personal and corporate success is:
Success = Human Capital (what you know and can do) X Social Capital (who you know and who knows you) X Reputation (who trusts you).
While all industries are knowledge-based today, personal knowledge and social capital capabilities are critical to professional service firms (such as consulting, investment banking and law) and research-driven firms that depend upon the capabilities of knowledge workers, both individually and working together.
The professional knowledge worker needs to look at him or herself as the hub of his personal and business networks. How he or she connects to a community of networks will determine if s/he obtains the resources when s/he needs them.
By making the 'invisible structure' of personal and business relationships visible, s/he will work more effectively through increasing one's personal bandwidth.
Since personal development leads business development, understanding and practicing social capital building methods should be an important element in a company's business development strategy. Professionals need to make skills of influence and collaboration part of their everyday tool kit.
The fundamental point is that much of the value that gets created in a company comes from the ways in which workers teach and learn from each other. If telecommuters do less of that, the organization will be weaker. On top of this, there’s evidence that telecommuting can make it hard to foster trust and solidarity—an issue that matters a lot to Yahoo right now. Face time is still the easiest way to build connections.
Coach Bobby Knight won 902 college basketball games while Indiana University had the highest rate of graduation of any NCAA team.
Coach Knight accomplished that by measuring the performance of his players on and off the court and using the power of emotion intelligence to energize his teams to victory. When Knight started coaching, one of the worst things that he heard was "It will be O.K." He wondered how the hell is it going to be O.K.? He concluded that the worst word in the English language is "hope."
All the years he coached, he sent a card to every professor for each kid he had on the team and was able to keep track on a daily basis who cut class or who was dropping a grade average. What he did for the player that was missing class (or beginning to slide down in the class) would be to bring the kid in at 5AM and have him run the stairs from the bottom to the top until the coach told him to quit. He did that with a lot of kids, but never twice.
Coach Knight was always focused on team performance and when he said something, the players understood exactly what he meant and what he wanted. Knight believes that a big part of teaching is being emphatic.
Source: The New York Times Magazine, March 3, 2013
Corporate cultures and behaviors can hinder women's progress toward leadership positions.
"Given that men maintain critical mass in leadership positions, they control the evolution of their organizational structures and the pace at which women will be allowed into leadership," says "Not in the Club" author Janet Pucino. "Statistically women are the extreme exception at the executive level and in boardrooms. Only 16 percent of board positions are held by women and less than 4 percent of Fortune 500 companies have women CEOs."
Pucino cites other data on gender biases, women's experiences and human behaviors and concludes that, despite a prevalence of such findings, there's been virtually no impact on today's corporate structures, labor laws, governmental policies or business programs in the country's top business schools.
There is an abysmal lack of executive coaching and mentorship of emerging women leaders. Coaching and mentoring for women is a key success factor. If you ask male executives if they've mentored women during their careers, most would say they have not done so, but there aren't yet enough women executives to mentor other women. Women don't have the critical mass to do it alone. The solution is to engage a male executive coach to help you understand how male executives think and engineer the best work experiences in more diverse environments.
Career success is really all about having choices and making choices in your current work environment and throughout your career. The higher up you go, the more expectations you have placed on you. It becomes imperative to take control--you don't have to respond to everything. Working your choices through with your coach or mentor can bring clarity to your thought processes. Here is what one executive woman said about her coaching experience, "John has a unique style, a solid set of tools and an approach that will enable an individual to validate the direction they want to pursue both professionally & personally. You will benefit from the breadth, depth and diversity of his knowledge."
Why Gender Matters
The context of a woman's role within a culture directly correlates to how women are accepted and perceived in the workforce by that culture. These different perceptions lead to different inquiries and conclusions. For example, it is common for women executives to feel isolated because they are not socialized in the ways men are. As women move up the corporate ladder, this feeling of isolation occurs because women are held to different standards than men and are not always supported by the people they have brought along with them.
In recent years, scientists have discovered that differences between the sexes are more profound than anyone previously guessed. Right down to the cellular level males and females are different. The sex hormones estrogen in women and testosterone in men have a significant impact on behavior.
Men and women are not only markedly different in the hormones that drive them, but they are also different in the way they think. The brains of men and women are actually wired differently. When we add to this our unique personalities, our cultural upbringing, and the environment in which we live and work, we come to appreciate why the sexes view the world differently.
It is these differences that create interpersonal problems when we have the irrational belief all men, or all women, respond in a similar manner. The truth is that both men and women routinely approach a broad range of personal and business issues quite differently.
Men in business will expect women to behave like them, while women will expect a female counterpart to behave in a more feminine manner. It is a fine pink line that women in leadership roles walk. Men and women tend to respond differently—not better or worse, just differently. Yet women continue to be faulted for their feminine attributes.
As you can imagine, this gender gap can create all sorts of problems when neither side feels valued, inappropriately judged or misunderstood. The key to success will be to recognize that some ingrained behaviors can create natural “gender gaps." We know that the corporate world has vast room for improvement when it comes to incorporating women into top professional positions.
As you know, the culture at most companies has been shaped over centuries by male executives. You also know that the natural outcome of a male-dominated business is that it has the tendency to be conducted like a team sport. Today, more and more women are playing competitive sports, but it is only recently that they have begun to recognize the need to adapt some of these same skills to the workplace. Even then, women can find the rules of the game elusive; they don’t completely understand its approach to power, money, control, and status. Sometimes the elements are more subtle than that.
You know, and we know, that you are skilled and brighter than average. You work hard, you stay late, and yet others who are less dedicated are too often the ones who get recognized and rewarded.
This fact is sad but true: it will be exceptionally difficult to move ahead if you don’t appreciate the unwritten rules of the game. Keep in mind the truism: “Star players don’t become star players on the field. They are merely recognized there.” If you want to understand how someone succeeds, don’t just watch them accept the award. You have to observe their daily preparations closely.
To bridge gender gaps, successful women key into the rules of the game and actively study the culture of their organization. For starters, women must understand what is considered a win, what behaviors and goals will be rewarded, and what qualities are characteristic of a strong team player.
Gender-based differences play out in leadership nearly every day influencing how men and women communicate, act, react, problem-solve, make decisions and work together. One is no more effective than the other; but joined holistically within a balanced leadership team, can lead to a better business outcome.
