"...for grasping the relationship between work and the rest of life." Stew Friedman
Everyone has an opinion on work/life balance. Anne-Marie Slaughter's famous "Why Women Still Can't Have it All" article to Marissa Mayer's revoking of Yahoo's work-at-home policy to Sheryl Sandberg's "Lean In" campaign urging women not to step back from challenging careers.
But no one has addressed the question: Is it possible for individuals to achieve something significant in their life's work without short-changing the people who count on them the most?
Many people believe that to achieve great things we must make brutal sacrifices; that to succeed in work we must focus single-mindedly, at the expense of self, family and society.
Work/life balance is a misguided metaphor for grasping the relationship between work and the rest of life; the image of the scale forces you to think in terms of trade-offs instead of the possibilities for harmony. And the idea that "work" competes with "life" ignores the more nuanced reality of our humanity. It ignores the fact that "life" is actually the intersection and interaction of four domains of life: work or school; home or family; community or society; and the private realm of mind, body and spirit. Of course, you can't have it all at the same time. No one can.
Successful people make it their business to be conscious of what and who matter most. Their actions flow from their values. They strive to do what they can to make things better for the people who depend on them and on whom they depend, in all the different parts of their lives.
In his book, "LEADING THE LIFE YOU WANT: Skills for Integrating Work and Life" Stew Friedman, professor at Wharton School of Business, passionately advocates for replacing the misguided metaphor of "work/life balance" with something more realistic, sustainable and enriching. With dozens of engaging exercises for practicing these skills, curated from research in organizational psychology and related fields, this book will inspire, inform and instruct individuals on how to take realistic steps toward leading the life you truly want.
Source: Stewart D. Friedman: Leading the Life You Want: Skills for Integrating Work and Life
Sheryl Sandberg: Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead
When Doing It All Won't Do: A Self-Coaching Guide for Career Women